Not once we were in the situation of saying "no" to someone. Ok, so if you are reading this means you are not the only one who struggles with this problem.
Why do we say it?
Saying "no" could be, or already is one of the biggest timesavers in existence. This could spare you from commitments wich may cost you hours, days, weeks, even months of your time. It is not easy to say "no" when someone is asking you for something. You may feel guilty wich makes you say "yes" when in fact you should say "no".
How do I use it without feeling guilty?
You should be sincere. If there is a guilty feeling it has to be there for a reason. It can trigger as a reminder if you say "no" while your heart is saying "yes". When you are sure that you are sincere then you wont feel guilty when saying "no".
If you feel that your decision will make the world eventually a better place then you should say "no" without feeling guilty. This may not be easy because a decision may be good for you but bad for the others in short term.
If you want to be more confortable with your decision you need to make the others feel the same. To do this you will have to give them a reason wich will benefit them.
The next step is to communicate clearly to others what is the benetfit. Choose polite but firm words wich will give them a clear "no" but also a good reason of why doing so may benefit them. Just the fact that your are making them feel better will put the guilty feeling even further from you.
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